MY MOTHER'S WAY OF DYING WELL
A lasting memorial to my parents Helen and Geoffrey Byrne whose way of life and death were inspiring. They have no headstone or plaque to honour their death because they wanted their ashes scattered to the 4 winds.
Millions of people die every day, there is only one day your mother dies. When she dies it can be a life changing and intense experience of loss for most people. During the period of mourning it can be hard to see the way forward. I recorded in detail the challenges I had to overcome when I confronted the reality of death for my parents I loved.
My father died suddenly and it was a shock. My mother died more slowly of advanced bowel cancer and we had a lot of time to talk.
This book records some of the moments of grief and loss created by the death of my parents Helen and Geoffrey Byrne. It has something for everyone.
-planning for death
-managing my tears so I could talk by using the phone
-role confusion. I am a trained nurse and a daughter?
-power of attorney & wills
- who turns the respirator off?
-family dynamics and conflicts
-when reality and plans conflict
-death of others in the family
-given a terminal diagnosis
-funding the care protocols
-personal reactions to issues never previously confronted
-end of life pain management
-the issue of forgiveness
-where is the body
-no death certificate can be issued so how do we cremate the body?
-creating our own funeral
-writing laments and songs
-what do we do with the ashes?
-finding a new life and peace through faith and prayer